Sex, Love and Music.... Chapter II: The third age ....

   Where does love lie?....

According to human research at Oxford, in a study that included both men and women under a well-designed questionnaire, while undergoing evaluation by CT and MRI, six different types of "love" were defined. These types reside in similar places but maintain their own characteristics and neuronal niches that differentiate them. It should be noted that the questionnaire applied to the study subjects did not consider the inclusion of questions about desire and sexuality (an important question for linking love to sex).

Couple love

Parents' love

Children's love

Nature's love

Animal love

Friendship love

All related to the basal nuclei: Thalamus, Putamen, Insula, and which extend their dimensions to a territory around them, with couple love being the most extensive.

This relates to the Greek hypotheses that described different types of love. This conception was later altered (Religion, Catholicism, and the Middle Ages), leaving only one concept of love that encompassed all the previous ones. This fact clearly illustrates the influence of man in human relationships, and the abandonment of the divine, which is replaced by concepts closer to the law and the laws that govern humankind.

The concept of love, according to the ancient Greeks, is not a single concept. It clearly differentiates between several concepts, now overlapping, according to the needs and development of human society, technology, and relationships established according to legal criteria, to facilitate the administration of the law. 

In this conception, what concerns sexual desire is clearly differentiated from what concerns other types of love.

Agape (ἀγάπη): Selfless, unconditional, charitable love. God's love for humanity. Altruistic love.

Eros (ἔρως): Passionate, romantic love. Sexual passion and desire.

Philia (φιλία): The love of friendship, an affectionate and loyal bond between equals, between close friends.

Storge (στοργή): Familial love, the natural affection between parents and children, or between siblings and other relatives.

Philautia (φιλαυτία): Self-love. A human need or moral failing (vanity and selfishness).

Xenia (ξενία): Concept of hospitality and ritualized friendship, demanding generosity and reciprocity toward guests.

Ludus: Playful love, flirting, laughter, and casual connection, in the early stages of romance.

Pragma: Mature and pragmatic love, based on commitment, mutual understanding, and the search for common ground for a long-term relationship.

EROS AND AGAPE.....LOVE IN ANCIENT GREECE

The historical definition of sexuality encompasses the set of emotional, behavioral, and practical phenomena associated with sexual pleasure. On the other hand, within the anatomical context, sexuality refers to the physiological and psychological-affective characteristics and conditions that characterize each individual's biological sex. Biological sex is what characterizes us as "male" or "female" from birth (or even before). In its most basic expression, the sexual organs determine a person's sex and only allow for these two variables. Gender, on the other hand, is the set of ideas, beliefs, and social attributions constructed in each culture and historical moment based on sexual difference. It evolves over time and as social ideals advance. It is strongly linked to the stereotypes of the time and to the well-known "gender roles," which assume that a person, by being of a certain sex, must have a certain gender identity and, therefore, must act as their gender dictates. Gender is directly linked to sexual attraction, since based solely on sexuality, heterosexuality would be the only known orientation. Thanks to these definitions, different forms of love and affection have been recognized, but what is love? Love is defined as the bond of affection that arises from the appreciation of the other and inspires the desire for their good. On the other hand, according to psychology, love goes far beyond having an affinity with another person. To love is to respect, connect, and feel completely free with another. But many years ago, the ancient Greek civilization attempted to explain and define love by separating it into four fundamental types: Philia, Sacrament, Agape, and Eros. Philia is linked to friendships, implies affection and caring, is fraternal, and is based on promoting the good of the other. It is usually based on admiration and implies having genuine appreciation and joy for the good of the other. Storage is the love for family, it is a love that occurs naturally and the only thing it can do is increase progressively, it occurs in parent-child bonds normally, it gives relevance to commitment and physical appearance is irrelevant, it is worth mentioning that it was also the least used term. Agape is the strongest type of love, due to its selfless and honest nature, a voluntary and unconditional love, where the basis is to accept the other despite their imperfections, it is not at all superficial and implies absolute surrender, this concept was widely adopted in the Christian religion. Eros is an ephemeral love, purely romantic and passionate, its name was due to the God of attraction, passion and fertility, it is a type of love based on the physical and sensuality, it submits to the whims of desire, hence its ephemeral nature, and yet, the naturalness of desire makes it capable of evolving into a deeper love. It is well known that the Greeks were among the most advanced ancient civilizations of their time, and this is a clear example of this, they classified the different types of love, and it is even believed that they accepted homosexuality, however, over time this acceptance was lost, especially with the arrival of the Christian religion, which, despite being the clear representation of the strongest type of love according to the Greeks, used the concept for their own convenience "God sacrificed himself for us because he loves us, but God hates homosexuals." And yet, within that irony of Agape, in religion there was a certain logic that was also linked to an old Greek belief; For many years, this spread the rumor that homosexuality was the fault of sexual desire, that is, Eros love, love for which according to the Greeks, a person was capable of going crazy by submitting to the desires of their most primitive instincts, which made homosexuality be believed to be an illness, a disorder, madness, hence the popular belief that they can “cure” or “convert”. Therefore, historically sex and gender have been turned into some of the most complex taboo subjects to deal with, years ago they had their own definition as something not serious, and it was even considered normal, but the changes in ideals and the distortion of religion were what turned them into what they are today, a mixture of points of view and opinions that are not in singular harmony.

                               Ivette Bautista Mejias. UNAM. Mexico.

 The old man's madness.

He turned over in his heart, remembering his own words: "I don't want you to send me to dating sites... I don't want to being around AND around looking for you or masturbate With other girls, and if I wanted to, I'd choose where, directly... If I want to see you... it's because I want to see you... I don't want to see another girl, no matter how old she is, and I don't want to wander and flip... flip through pages and pages of dating sites."

I'm not looking for a wife... I'm looking for a true companion... who finds me "beautiful" and I find her "beautiful." Having a free moment to exchange emotions... this sensuality can't be solely sexual in nature...

I'm not cynical like the vast majority of conservatives who, in public, openly degrade all these dating or sexual encounter sites according to Christian morality and... secretly, they themselves, in their supposedly well-established homes, are the biggest consumers of sex in exchange for money... etc...

Aaahhh, but they openly praise retirement homes for seniors and manage your stay according to their beliefs and needs. Your own family takes you to them... an act they say speaks of "love"... of how well cared for we'll be... but the truth is... we're a nuisance... and they don't ask us what we want... they assume according to their selfish motives...

The elderly, we're a burden to all of them... because that's how they want to establish it... they look after their well-being and freedom instead of ours.......

- I understand you... I don't know what to do...

- There's little that can be done.....

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  He had met her online, on Threads, and for some reason, they began to charm each other with words... and they dated... and the conversations grew longer and deeper.

He didn't mind that she continued with her work... when they were together, their glances, words, and caresses radiated true affection...

She found in him someone she could tell everything to without being belittled or jealous...

They both found each other beautiful...

The entire circle surrounding them made them feel their contempt and violent stupidity.

It wasn't just the young people; it was also their relatives and older people who pointed them out as an embarrassment to society.

A supposedly evolved society, free from prejudice, supportive...

It was clearly demonstrated that the crystallization of thought, closed to change, freely circulated among young, adults, and old, men and women.

Suddenly, a fire siren sounded. I shuddered, the pencil fell from my hands. And a clear human figure appeared before me. Her face was unmistakable, dark brown curly hair, thin and flowing over her delicate features, of unparalleled purity. A gaze that spoke from the heart without saying a word. Communicating enormous feelings and emotions. She approached me. The dim light from the window clarified the shadows on her face. "Jessica," I said.

And recent memories collapsed on my head, triggering an awakening of feelings, emotions, thoughts, and clear theories about the passage of time in the life of a child becoming a young person, a young person becoming an adult, an adult. He's growing old... an old man who faces the scorn and sarcasm of his fellow men, and the inescapable fact of the last door he would open in this world, with this life...

Jessica had made him see how absurd and unevolved the way of thinking of a growing man remained...

         The slavery of the imagination

...Yeah... I'm an old man to society, to the skewed view of youth, which sees youth existing as long as one is in a "young body." But, from the moment the adolescent "assimilates" the established order, he buries his curiosity, not asking any questions, blending in with his friends and peers, imitating clothing, tattoos, music, ambitions... his brain, which is just developing, begins to be used less, "stiffening" his way of thinking, telling himself... "everything is as it should be"... he has begun to "age" in his thoughts, in his emotions, and, finally, in his actions... he is an "old man" trapped in a 16- or 17-year-old body...

So, from the "point of view" of "wear and tear" and the basic need for movement, since "movement" sustains "life" (every organic object that does not move rusts and dies), we have two "youths": the "physical" one, which will deteriorate over time and, moreover, to which the system of "capital" and the "economy" have placed a comparable value. and competitive with the "currency," enslaving their mind to the "young" body... and, the "mental" youth, which doesn't wear out as long as it remains active and curious, relentlessly, and over time, its vitality increases with the increased use of alternative, usually unused, neural pathways...

And, two "agings," the "physical," which leads the body to disintegration and death... and the "mental," which, contrary to the above, if the neural network isn't kept "moving," begins, in the vast majority of the population, urban and rural, during adolescence, considered "useful adolescence" by civilized human morality, and considers the world static, fixed, and as it is perceived.

- Pamela : Wow... a certain correlation between the biological, the tangible, with the psychological, tangible in its social and behavioral effects. With a genotype and its corresponding phenotype interacting and influencing each other!!!

...And, this is the most interesting part....whether you believe in God or Natural Selection or not, the only thing in our body that can be "transcended" is the "mind".....it's the "intangible".....hahaha, ironic, or not???!!!>

- Felipe: Hahaha...that is to say, "we chase our tails our whole lives"!!!!....hahaha..

- <. ...Axiom I: Based on the above.....the old human, seeing his body wear out and, with an "aged" way of thinking since his adolescence, feels that he is losing the "only" tangible thing he has...his body.

This leads to feeling "useless" and "depression," which was previously a condition or illness of adults, becoming increasingly common in youth, beginning early, modifying the ability to adapt, crystallizing into repetitive, vicious behavior... this being the reason for the negative feeling towards the passing of the years... a negative feeling that slowly self-destructs one's own body... >

-         :... I remembered a song by a rock band, "Living Color," called "the cult of personality," in this case, "the cult of the body" ....

- < .... Axiom 2: .... Therefore, when you tell me that I am an "old man," knowing your addiction to the tangible, to the body, and to the mental slavery to which you subject yourself, telling yourself, "things are as they should be"...... I take it as a "compliment," and I am glad that you consider me.... old..... because I accept bodily aging as part of the eternal cycle of life, without beginning or end... and the strongly negative ideas that the vast majority live with don't penetrate me, and neither hostility nor depression find much foothold to develop... hahaha... 

                        Extract from "Tales under the high heels". Chapter 12. Author:Antonio Pezoa

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   Sensuality at your service

... It was sudden, unplanned, I felt electricity in my hands and feet, my abdominal muscles contracted involuntarily, my hands, like robotic limbs, surrounded her... the kiss, her tongue, her lips... provoked me... excited me... a sensation I had never felt... she pulled away smiling at me...

< - Did you like my congratulations??!!.... hahahaha...

- I don't know what to say!!... It's... I don't know... an accumulation of vibrations and sensations that move from the surface of the body and go towards my genitals, which take on a life of their own... it's... tremendous... + I said timidly - I'd like to do it again!!>

< - Yes, it was so good... I liked it!! Will you walk me back to my apartment??>

... I followed her, she took my hand... I didn't know what to do. We had talked and chatted a lot before, and she knew I was having sex for the first time. That's why she named me "17" (teen) and "w" for Steppenwolf by Herman Hesse... She was talking, but I heard her voice from afar... and I didn't know what she was talking about... I was nervous, trying not to show it... the trip was fast. We got off the bus and walked in the shadows of the "Nuñoa" trees... suddenly, she turned, came closer, hugged me, and kissed me... deeply... I felt her body penetrate mine, that the limits of our bodies were lost... she whispered sweetly and slowly...

<- Calm down, everything is fine, let me guide you through everything... relax? You're with me, with the woman you really, really, really like...

And, let me tell you a secret? I like you even more... ever since I saw you in the gardens, smoking, reading, singing... >

....his voice was almost silent, caressing me with his words and his lips brushing my skin... I felt good... good... it was so delicious!!!.....

   With that clear smile, relaxed facial lines... those curious eyes, with a half-turned, but determined gaze... a lock of hair crossing her left eye, down her nose, crossing her mouth and lips...

Her right hand rested on my left shoulder and gently, brushing my skin, moved up to my neck, slid back, and gently but firmly pulled me towards her... I, with all my age... trembled just like the day we joined our naked bodies for the first time... 44 years ago, 44 books written on our skin... and the touch, the softness, the sensuality... exactly as we experienced it. 44 years ago....

... His lips kissed my ear and his tongue moistened my skin, and his calm, firm voice, surrounded by water vapor, whispered in my ear...

< - ... I told you why I came from Greece... a feeling, a force born from my guts, sending tremors and chills all over my skin, guided me to you... all the other things I must do are all secondary... I came to see you... to be with you...

and I found you, and here I am, longing for you to enter deep inside me... uuifff...> - a soft bite on my ear... his wet tongue slid into my mouth... lips parted, not fully joined, but mm, and tongues embracing, playing....< And now I want to eat you whole!!!!> 

                         Chapter 12.  "Tales at the high heels". (extract). Author:Antonio A.Pezoa Sch.

  As always, the musical themes attached are related to the content of what is written. The purpose is to raise concerns and engage your intelligence. The themes are presented as "stories".

  My intention is not to modify your thinking, only to encourage its use. The writing is mine, and I assume its content (with the exception of the themes indicated at the end). 

 As for the interpretation, it is up to each of you.

El sueño del old man.....ligar a una niña mas joven....